fuck hard and talk dirty.

when it gets tough, gotta fight some more

I was thinking about my past relationships today. And yes, I am very happy with my husband, but I think it is only natural to wonder what if. I have realized that it is not the person that I necessarily miss sometimes. It is the great memories that I remember! When you first break up, all you can think about are the horrible things about the relationship and it eats at you. You start wondering what you could have done better, or is there something wrong with me. But looking back - there are usually really great, valid reasons why the relationship ended. It’s because you are two people that ultimately cannot be together. You aren’t the right two people for each other. Whether someone cheated, lied, did anything bad is really not the issue. Yes, these are terrible things, but the real issues are why they or you did these things. Or maybe you just grew apart, or you grew up. I’ve been through heartbreak and witnessed a lot of it from friends, but I have come to realize that we shouldn’t be grieving because we don’t have that person anymore. We should be thinking about what that may bring. What is the next chapter? No one is perfect. No one will be absolutely perfect for you. Most people will have to fight for their relationships, but make sure you are fighting for the same thing. Because you want the relationship to work. If someone wants it to be over, let them go peacefully. You didn’t do anything wrong to make them leave. You were just yourself, and that’s okay. You will find someone that loves you for just who you are and all will be right with the world! <3